Everyone’s Right to the Rite

Everyone’s Right to the Rite

Susan Artup is a straight woman with a 45-year connection to the gay community and is delighted with the recent change in marriage law. She has been a civil celebrant since 1995 with “ A Ceremony by Design … true to your relationship…”, defining her approach to...
When Did Valentine’s Day Start?

When Did Valentine’s Day Start?

Before it was ever associated with love, February 14th was a feast day held in Roman times to honour various martyred saints called Valentinus, in particular St Valentinus of Rome. This Valentine was imprisoned for his faith in 269 and executed because he wouldn’t...
You think you know what love is?

You think you know what love is?

” I take you to be my lawful wife, my lawful husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, in good times and adversity, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish till death do us part… ” In the nursing home where my...
15 Ways to a Healthy Relationship

15 Ways to a Healthy Relationship

I wonder if it’s possible to offer a prescription for a sound relationship? And on whose evidence and experience? Anyway here is something I read lately – 15 pointers to a healthy relationship. Should there be fewer? Why stop at 15? Anyway : Look after your own...
The Search for Love

The Search for Love

What is it about us that makes us go after love even if our experience of it has brought anguish and destruction? In her poem Laura Hendricks says: “ If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough.” I read an article in the Sunday paper years...
Love and Friendship

Love and Friendship

Sometimes I read that the basis for love in marriage is friendship. That friends turn into lovers and surely their relationship will grow and thrive. Laura Hendricks poem, Love is Friendship caught Fire” suggests this: “Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet,...