An Early Variation on Vows

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This is one of the first variations on marriage vows that I came across – a couple I was marrying in the 90s came up with these promises:

Today as I take you for my wife / husband,
I cannot promise you
That I will not change or
That my faults will never show,
I cannot promise you
That I will not have many different moods or
Never be erratic.
I cannot promise you
That I will not hurt your feelings sometimes or
That I will always be strong.

But
I can promise you
That I will always be supportive of you and
Understand everything that you do.
I can promise you
That I will share my thoughts and feelings with you and
Always laugh and cry with you.
I can promise you
That I will give you freedom to be yourself and
Help you achieve your goals
I can promise you
That I will always be faithful to you and
Always be completely honest with you
And most of all,
I can promise you that I will always love you.

These words have proved a very popular choice – they get a response from the wedding guests because they are realistic and personal. In fact there is great potential for personalizing these vows further – you could use them as a model for describing individual traits. You are only limited by your literary ability and imagination!

By | 2016-10-15T11:39:48+00:00 September 24th, 2015|Categories: Rituals, The Finer Points, The Process of Getting Married|0 Comments

About the Author:

Susan Artup is an experienced Civil Marriage Celebrant from the Blue Mountains and a foundation member of the Australian Marriage Celebrants incorporated, the largest professional network of celebrants in Australia.

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