The Search for Love

The Search for Love

What is it about us that makes us go after love even if our experience of it has brought anguish and destruction? In her poem Laura Hendricks says: “ If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough.” I read an article in the Sunday paper years...
Love and Friendship

Love and Friendship

Sometimes I read that the basis for love in marriage is friendship. That friends turn into lovers and surely their relationship will grow and thrive. Laura Hendricks poem, Love is Friendship caught Fire” suggests this: “Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet,...
Ten Promises

Ten Promises

According to law in Australia these are the words that make a marriage. Referred to as the Vows, according to the lexicon they are more a binding statement of intent, and in that sense a commitment: “ I call upon the persons here present to witness that I take you as...
10 Ways to be a Good Partner

10 Ways to be a Good Partner

One of the letters to the editor I read lately discusses the disposability of marriage. Enduring love, it says, happens at the Deep Love Phase, after the initial Romantic Phase and the negotiating of the Conflict Phase. Communicating and connecting are learned skills...