At civil wedding ceremonies it sometimes appears as though the celebrant is imparting personal views about love and marriage, as would a minister of religion in delivering a sacrament. This is not ever the case in civil proceedings, whose content is the choice of the couple, the expression of which is shared with guests through the facilitation of the celebrant.
The idea of friendship being the firmest foundation for a lasting relationship is often chosen as a theme for the celebrant to deliver: very sound words of advice.
These two readings remind the wedding guests of this :
EVERY TWO UNIQUE Thomas Davidson
“No human relationship give one possession of another. A relationship links two people together. Each person is unique and different so the mode and style of this linking varies. But whether it is friendship or love, the two people side by side find and achieve so much together, which one of them cannot find or achieve alone.
In a relationship the lover recognises the talent and beauty of the other. They should tell the other of it when they see it. In a relationship if you accept the sunshine and warmth, you must also be able to accept the overcast and the cool.
Among intelligent people, the surest basis of the relationship of marriage is friendship – the sharing of real interests – the ability to work through real issues together, to work towards common goals together, and to understand and share each others thought and dreams.”
The friendship described as the basis for marriage overtakes all other friendships. Love becomes friendship and friendship becomes love.
Love is Friendship Caught Fire Laura Hendricks
“Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses.
Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past. It is the day-in and day-out chronicle of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories and working toward common goals. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough.”