So a wedding is not only the declaration of a union but the opportunity for the invited to have their say – to cast a bespoke or borrowed blessing on the newly- weds (coming as it should after the binding is made). The blessing is the finishing touch to the ceremony – the gift from all present, far more important than the dinner sets and wine glasses. There is an infinite number of blessings – a blessing for every couple form here to eternity. And blessings are timeless. Here is one I found applicable to modern relationships (and let us be mindful you don’t need to be “married” to be up for this one!) :
“ May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance and understanding. May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you embrace one another, but not encircle one another. May you succeed in all-important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces. May you look for things to praise, often say “ I love you!” and take no notice of small faults.
If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you enter into the mystery that is the awareness of one another’s presence – no more whimsical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or distant cities.
May you have happiness, and may you find it in making one another happy. May you have love, and may you find it in loving one another.”