Finding Your Perfect Match: The Transition to Lasting Love
Meeting someone with whom you are willing to share your life is for many a dream come true. In fact, when you’ve met that person, being apart is unthinkable, as I’ve written previously. But the prospect of finding your perfect match isn’t just something that makes your heart flutter… the happiness is founded in the certainty that here is someone who complements you and makes you feel better, more secure, more content than when you were single.
Here is how Susan Polis Schutz describes this transition :
“ When I was younger I dreamed how a relationship should be
a sharing of goals and lives
A love so strong that it is always exciting and growing
A blending of two imperfect individuals into stronger, better people
who laugh more, are happier, more successful
and more at peace.
My dream came to be because you had the same dream as I
And I want you to know how thankful I am
For our beautiful relationship and how much I love you.”
And what makes your partner worthy of love? Far from personal charm it is how you are transformed by love that makes you love in return. True, requited love gives and gives, as Roy Croft writes in this poem, “ Love” :
“I love you,
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can't help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find.
I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple;
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good,
And more than any fate
To make me happy.
You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.”
These are both fitting readings if you really want to personalize your ceremony…
